An Open Letter to the Woman Becoming Whole

by SMG, creator ond visionary behind Black and Wanderlust™

If you have found your way here, chances are you are not trying to become more — you are trying to become whole.

You are not chasing louder.

You are not chasing harder.

You are not chasing performance.

You are tending.

You are scripting your vision.

You are making transitions.

You are reaching — literally and figuratively — for the life that feels aligned with who God created you to be.

And in the midst of all that becoming, you are trying not to lose yourself.

This space is for you.

If you are rebuilding without bitterness, softening without shrinking, strengthening without hardening, dreaming without apology — you belong here.

Becoming Whole Through Faith and Surrender

Masculine and feminine polarity exists in nature — in rhythm, in balance. But here, we are not debating theory. We are reclaiming integration.

You may be capable.

You may be accomplished.

You may know how to build, lead, organize, fix, provide.

And still — you long for softness.

You long for protection that is not merely financial.

You long for partnership that feels safe.

You long for ease without apology.

That longing is not weakness.

It is wisdom.

There was a time I designed my life through the lens of lack — bracing, calculating, over-functioning. But something shifted when I realized there were too many things within my reach awaiting my “yes” to waste my magnetism on anxiety and minutia.

I began to practice something different.

Instead of nagging, I began surrendering.

Instead of manipulating outcomes, I began planting intentions.

Instead of obsessing, I began trusting.

I learned to lightly — and sometimes heavily — sprinkle my desires into the atmosphere of prayer and watch them unfold in God’s favor.

That is when I feel most powerful.

Not when I am gripping.

Not when I am striving.

But when I am aligned.

Strength and Softness Can Coexist

Sometimes my wires still fray.

Sometimes I ruminate.

Sometimes insecurity knocks loudly.

But when I return to belief — when I remind myself that what exists for me cannot miss me — my body softens. My spirit steadies. I move like a woman who trusts her inheritance.

Confidence, for me, is not domination.

It is peace.

It begins daily — turning down the volume of internal criticism and asking instead:

What do I wish to originate here?

For the woman becoming whole, strength does not cancel softness.

It integrates it.

Wholeness begins when we stop performing strength and start trusting God with our softness.

Reclaiming Feminine Energy Without Losing Power

I once described myself as a ripe mango woman — firm yet yielding, vibrant on the outside, sweet within. For years, she was buried beneath obligation, performance, and survival.

Now, she has permission to come forward.

Not because I am on a spiritual performance. But because I am on a path of integration — welding all parts of me into one woman.

Strong and soft.

Capable and receptive.

Grounded and sensual.

Faithful and fearless.

Let me say this clearly: Equality does not mean sameness.

We are allowed to define and express womanhood on our own terms — without being crushed by overzealous men or distorted by systems that misunderstand our nature.

Vulnerability is not weakness.

Receiving support is not neediness.

Desiring safety is not regression.

Choosing softness is not surrendering power.

There is no one-size model of femininity.

Although we may have access to the same tools, the way I choose to express my strengths may look different than yours — and both can be valid.

I choose to invite rather than demand.

I choose to surrender to God rather than fight everything.

I choose to manifest through faith rather than manipulate through fear.

And I choose partnership that feels like harmony — not competition.

That is my preference.

A Space for Women in Transition

If you are rebuilding without bitterness,

softening without shrinking,

strengthening without hardening,

dreaming without apology — you belong here.

If you are scripting your vision, making transitions, navigating personal growth, and walking by faith — you belong here.

This is a space for women becoming whole in real time.

Faith Lesson

• Wholeness begins when we stop performing strength and start trusting God with our softness.

• We do not have to dominate to be powerful. We do not have to harden to be safe. We do not have to over-function to be worthy.

• When we surrender control to God, we are not losing power — we are repositioning it.

Transformational Practice

This week, ask yourself:

Where am I over-functioning out of fear?

Then practice one small act of surrender:

• Ask for help without apology.

• Speak a desire calmly instead of defensively.

• Release an outcome in prayer.

• Choose rest over control.

Root work sometimes looks like letting go.

What version of you is waiting for permission to emerge?

If you are a woman rebuilding, rooting, softening, strengthening, integrating — walk with me.

We are not becoming smaller.

We are not becoming louder.

We are becoming rooted.

And when a woman is rooted — she does not have to force growth. She simply grows.

Take a breath. Stay awhile. There is room for you here.

What part of you is becoming whole in this season? I would love to hear what you’re tending — share in the comments below and continue the conversation with us on Instagram.

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SMG is an educator, author, and artist who writes, photographs, and designs from a place of faith, curiosity, and wonder. She blends family, adventure, and intentional living into stories and lessons that inspire reflection, spark creativity, and invite readers to walk boldly in their own journey of growth.