Updated: Sep 5
Playa Matapolo, Costa Rica
Masculine and feminine polarity exists in all elements of nature; biologically, spiritually and holistically we are an embodiment of both entities. However speaking relationally, we are designed to complement, balance, uplift, and coexist without crushing each other. Protection, provision, and service from men is not simply financial, romantic, or sexual, regardless of my capabilities and capacities as an individual.
" Although we have the same tools at our disposal, the way I choose to employ and express my strengths looks different than some women and most men.”
When I advocate for women's equality, I am not proposing that women should be treated exactly like men. What I do believe is that women should be allowed to decide for, define, exhibit, and be ourselves without being subjugated to the ill wills of overzealous men and/or the systematic oppression of a society that consistently defiles our nature. There is no one size fit all model to femininity or womanhood. Although we have the same tools at our disposal, the way I choose to employ and express my strengths looks different than some women and most men. Vulnerability is not synonymous with weakness, security and safety are invaluable in an intimate relationship, receiving aid and support is not codependency or neediness. I choose to embrace the fullness of my natural beauty, my calming/engaging presence, my soft exterior/aesthetics, my pleasant voice, my sweetness, my leadership, my creativity, my intuition/wisdom, and my inner confidence and fearlessness. I choose to invite rather than demand. I choose to surrender rather than fight. I choose to manifest rather than manipulate. And I choose to enjoy partnership with a gentleman that is strong, capable, and powerful enough in his own right to sometimes advise/redirect me, sometimes cover/shield me, and sometimes envelop me in a loving embrace when needed. That is my preference.
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